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Love Is Everywhere

Everyone is looking for love.

On one hand, guys are learning how to approach girls and learn how they call it- a game. Girls, on the other hand, are trying to make themselves most attractive they can –  all in one mission: to find that crazy little thing called love.

I think that everybody wants to have a meanigful relationship with another person, but sometimes in order to achieve thet, people seek short term benefits over long term rewards.

Guys are sometimes only interested in physical part of love (if it can even be called love), whereas girls are looking for more deeper involvment.

Some people can’t stand being alone so they jump from person to person and from relationship to relationship, often dissappointed in the end. Other person can enrich your life, but can’t take care of your life or be responsible for your happiness.

I often hear about girls who think they can change their boyfriends, but reality is- you can only change yourself.

The power you have for your own life and for inviting people who you want to be in it is tremendeous. Ultimately, you can choose, but my advice is to choose wisely. Don’t fall for guys who mistreat you, don’t appreciate you or demand you to do things you normally wouldn’t.

Normally, good guys could not be find in bars or clubs, try to meet them through mutual friends or by joining activities that you like. It should be abot making friendships first.

Men should cherish women, but women should respect men.

I am in my mid twenties, and most of my friends are in long term relationships or getting married, it is nice to see they found that special someone. I truly believe everyone has that one person who is meant to be for them.

To find him or her, you should make some moves, but also allow destiny and universe to make things work for you. Timing is everything, maybe you aren’t ready now, maybe you can’t wait to meet someone, but in the end- love will find you.

With love,

Marta

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Text, Always

Texting became more popular than phone calls which doesn’t surprise many in these days of online media.

Pesonally, I don’t make phone calls often- I would always prefer texting over talking to someone over the phone. Although texting can’t convey all the emotions a phone call usually consist of, it is more pratical and there are always 🙂 or 😛 involved.

There are people who I would rather call, but they have to be very close to me, a family member or a good friend. In some occasions it is more convenient to call than to text, but same works vice versa.

On one hand, for shy or introverted people it is easier to communicate  with others over texting. On the other hand, very sociable people would mostly call you. People who seek immediate response or who are in a hurry will always try to reach you by calling you. If wanting to meet someone for the first time or if it is late at night or you know that a person is busy, you would text him.

I always feel reluctant to make a phone call because I sometimes think I wouldn’t come up with something to say or that a uncomfortable silence would break in.

Also I don’t like receving phone calls, except when text message would serve as a precursor to call.I have a great fear that something bad happened and therefore a call from the other side is nesecarry.

Ten  years ago phone boxes were very common, nowadays everyone has a cell phone, in ten years from now it is hard to predict how our communication habits will look like.

 

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It Is All About The Mindset

Optimism or pessimism? Glass half full of half empty?

Can you learn to be optimistic or is it a mindset with which you were born?

Have hardships made you look world in a pessimistic way?

 

There are two groups of people: the ones who see good in bad and the ones who see bad in good.

I think it is always better to lean to more optimistic side of life.

Life is a gift and although it may not seem always so, when for example confronted with difficulties, you will more easily get through them if keeping positive attitude. Real art is to appreciate every situation in which you may find yourself, whether your perception of it is good or bad.

Often bad situations turn out to be the greatest blessings, but sometimes we don’t see it in the given moment. Pessimissm brings bitternes, reduced enjoyment of life and unhappines, so try to learn to view people or situations around you in brighter light.

Everyone wants to be surrounded by positive people and not drown in negativity. Positive energy creates more postive energy. When you get to happiness you will more easily attract even more happiness. To get there you must learn to accept good and bad, you must try to work on yourself, ask for help when needed and cultivate mindful approach. I think that people who ask for help when life becomes hard for them are truly strong people, because they know they need assistance and they readily show they vulnerability.

My advice for anyone wanting to be more positive is to learn to enjoy in small, everyday parts of life. Cherish the moments you spend with your family, help others, don’t isolate yourself.

Everyone has his own share of problems, we can try to solve them or mourn over them, it is all about the mindset- our approach to life in general.

If you learn to put effort in becoming an optimist, instead of all the energy you are wasting on your negativity, you will soon see it pays off.

I wish you to be happy, because that’s who you are!

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I Decide To Read This Post

Decisions – we bring them every day, from about something that seems trivial to something that would impact our life in the long run.

From my personal experience, I had the most choices while I was in high school and before I started to work. Then, I was also overwhelmed with decision making. There were times when I almost felt paralysed with all the choices I had to make. When you are growing up, you just start to learn about the world and all the possibilities it offers. Sometimes, you listen to yourself when deciding which option to choose from, other times you rely on opinions of others.

The best way to learn how to make a decision is to find a good mentor, someone who would help you navigate through that stormy years of so many possibilities. With years your path becomes somewhat narrower, because you get more confidant in your decision making and problem solving.

It is equally hard when you have many options that all seem like a good fit for you as only having one option to choose from.

When we are kids, parents decide for us what to wear, which kindergarten to attend, what to eat…

Slowly, we begin stepping in the world of youth and then of grown ups, when we decide (or not) to take responsibilities for our actions and changes we want to make in out life.

I think most people are not scared of making decisions, but about outcomes they may cause. For every road we don’t take, it’s one door that we closed. If you are trying to decide about something that is of great importance of you, you should allow yourself to take time to think thouroughly and  choose between many opportunities.

Resist taking action out of fear, always follow your intuition and when possible problems occur, just know that you will find your way through it.

Decisions aren’t hard, you unknowingly even made a decision to read this post, so choose, decide, select!

 

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Happiness Makes Me Happy

Music, reading, psychology, my family, writing, learning, hearing birds singing in the morning, that blissful moment when waiting to fall asleep, enjoying conversations with my friends, my dog…

You may be wondering why am I listing all these activities and notions and the simple answer is: those are some of the things that make me happy 🙂

Just waking up in the morning, drinking coffee and going to work- makes me happy

Just coming home back from work and having lunch at home with my family- makes me happy

Just reading an interesting book in the afternoon- makes me happy

Just walking around the park with my friends- makes me happy

 

The thing is, when you have a positive mindset everything can make you happy.

Life sometimes isn’t easy, sometimes we are caught in the thinking that makes us pessimistic, but even then life is beautiful and your happiness just waits for you to embrace it.

I am happy because I have overcome serious illness, I am happy because I fullfilled my dreams of getting to college which I wanted, I am happy because I have true friends.

Big part of my enjoyment of life is also my gratitude for life and all its moments.

I don’t have regrets, I always tried to make the best choices in given time. Even mistakes that I thought that I made in the past turned out to bring me positivity afterwards- I growed as a person from them. I became stronger and I learned to appreciate life more.

Everyone of us should also try to help others, give them encouragement when they don’t see anything good in their lives. Happy people should serve as an example that happiness is not only desirable, but attainable. After hardships we grow, after rain the Sun rises. After tears comes smile.

Happy people glow in some kind of magical way, so surround yourself also with happy people to share your joy. When you are happy you see beauty in small events, in routine, in difficulties, in a rainy day.

There are many definitions of what life is, but I think that life is- happiness 🙂

 

 

 

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