Social media

Real life Cannot Be Found On Facebook

I have been using Facebook since I was about 17 years old.

My journey through social media started with Myspace, then Facebook followed (now days I like Twitter the most).

I first set up my Facebook account because it started to be very popular in my country and as I was in high school and you have to be popular in high school- therefore: Facebook!

Facebook was very much different ten years ago than it’s today, but some facts of that social network remained the same- everyone is posting about their happy and often fake lives. Everyone is partying, drinking and enjoying life. When I was younger, I often thought that my high school classmates were like that in real life, but as time passed by, I started to realize how far from the truth that was. Actually most of my colleagues were lost and depressed.

Not much of that fun postings were really true. Unfortunately I was really in a bad mood myself prior to that realization, but now I can observe their posts like a more experienced and mature adult. Actually when I realized that I don’t have to know anything about life of many of my so called „friends“ I was finally free.

While I was in high school, everyone was always gossiping so you had to stay in touch with who got drunk last night, who skipped classes, who made out with someone. Today my Facebook wall is bombarded with pictures of kids and weddings which I also don’t quite understand- shouldn’t photos of kids be kept private?

The best advice I could give myself is to quit Facebook, but unfortunately like all habits that have to be broken, it is not going to be easy. I already deactivated my account multiple times, but I always came back.

In reality today, I think you can only replace one social network with another, so perhaps I can quit Facebook and then start to write more on other platforms and connect with those people whose opinion I share with.

That’s a good start.

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Overcoming Adversity, Uncategorized

Through The Hard Times, Through The Limit

Sometimes I remember. The other times. The pleasant times. The sorrowful times.

Among many life situations and memories there are always some that stay imprinted in your subconscious mind. On one hand there are some memories I like to recall when I feel down, but on the other hand there are many disturbing difficulties that I wish I didn’t have to go through.

Life makes you forget or integrate in yourself events that happened to you which you found very painful.

In my example that was one illness I was diagnosed with when I was only 19 years old and for a long time I just could not accept that it was happening to me. There were so many negative emotions included, so many tears, so many -as I thought back then- missed moments which I was unlike other people of my age, spending in hospital.

When you confront death at such a young age, it pushes you to achieve things that other would never have the strengths to think of. Overcoming serious illness at first breaks your self confidence, but in the end if you survived the deepest depths of it, you can survive anything.

That’s what I remind myself of.

Illness is something most of us will get confronted with at various points of our lives, some will get better, get resilient, others perhaps aren’t going to be that „lucky“.

I have to thank my whole family for supporting me through my dark times because without them my Sun would probably not have emerged.

Through my illness, I lost contact with many friends, quit so many things I would normally do, but I also learned to cherish the people who sticked with me and who supported me.

The funny thing and at the same time the irony of the whole situation is that you have to stay strong when you are feeling the lowest. That, my reader, not many of us could accomplish, but not you my dear….

You could.

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Social media

Twitter Is The New Black

Twitter is an online website for microblogging.

You don’t have to say much to be noticed there, since your message must be up to 140 characters long. It is great tool for people who like to write and connect with like minded individuals.

There are several groups of people who are using it- some of which are celebrities, influencers or just some average Joe’s who have a knack for writing. In the beginning it is a bit hard to start off, but soon as you catch the drift of how it functions, you suddenly  can’t stop from spending time on that platform.

The very best advice would be to set your own tone of voice, to make yourself distinguishable from other hundreds of millions of its users. I recommend you to write in English since most users communicate in that language.

Try to build an audience of people you would like to grab a coffee with, people with whom you know you could also talk in real life.

While you are attending elementary school, high school or even college, it is easy to find people you would like to hang out with, but once employed your social circle mostly becomes your colleagues. For the aforementioned reason, on Twitter, like you would do in real life, you can exchange ideas and opinions with similar adults.

Twitter can be used to advertise your business, blog or product. However, I get the most enjoyment from following like minded people and not getting bombarded with ads and other marketing techniques.

I like to use Twitter when I get inspiration from everyday experiences. The most of my tweets come from some funny events, things people told me or from pure observation of the world around me.

Most of our spare time these days is spent on social networks: be it Facebook, Linkedin or Twitter. However, the one last mentioned is best for practicing your creativity, so-

get inspiration, tweet and connect.

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Role models

Unsolicited Magical Advice

Throughout your life, you will hear a lot of useful and at times, not so useful advice.

Advices are other people´s opinions which they humbly think would apply to your life, because it served them in their´s.

People from all walks of life will hand them to you, although you never asked them in the first place.

It is up to you to decide what will you remember and what you won´t think about again.

Speaking from my experience, best piece of thought I ever heard came from my father who said that whatever was meant to happen would happen. On the other hand, the less helpful reflection came from my mother who said to me that everything will be fine with time.

These two sentences might seem similar,  but from my point of view, the pure effort to achieve that blissful happening makes them differ.

It is easier just to wait for something magically to happen, instead of taking steps to actually achieve it. But life doesn’t just happen, we create out realities everyday. We decide, we have choices, we have dreams, aspirations, habits…

The other day I saw an interesting picture posted on facebook: it showed how our success looks for the outside observer mostly like we took the painless path, like everything just clicked. In reality we made many difficult decisions, we survived many hardships, we sometimes laughed, but also cried a lot.

So the next time when you see someone who lives the life you always wanted, ask yourself what did it take him to get there. Perhaps you see only shiny moments, because you want to see the end result- happiness.

Every one of us wants to make the best our his life, but our paths on defining and accomplishing that task are not the same. We have to define our own goals, ask for guidance or believe in some Higher power to help us reveal our next step.

I realised that everything would be good in time, but only if we MAKE it happen.

Soon as you start creating your own reality, yes, everything will fall to its place.

Have fun in the meantime!

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Overcoming Adversity

Embrace Adversity

As human beings we have to constantly adapt in order to survive.

Sometimes we want to avoid adaptation because it is painful or unfamiliar, but by rejecting it we are also avoiding growth. Adaptation means facing adversity and becoming a stronger person by having made it through the storm.

While in the depths of its painful process, you may start to wonder how will you get through it and my simple advice would be by turning to others: mentors, parents or friends.

Proof of your strength in those moments is accepting that there are things you perhaps can’t handle without help of others or some higher force. Therefore, religion is also a path to coming to terms with many difficulties we face occasionally.

It is essential to stay positive no matter how painful your situation seems to you. I was often astonished how many bad thing which happened to be, turned out to be the greatest blessings.

The thing is I always stayed grateful for everything I had or have. Most people when confronted with adversity, get scared or want to escape from it, but as Winston Churchill said, you just have to keep going through Hell and in my opinion, eventually you’ll find yourself in Heaven.

Adversity taught me that I am stronger than I thought I was.

Adversity taught me that there are some life events that aren’t under our control.

Adversity taught me that if I could have survived past misfortunes, I could survive anything.

There were moments when I tried to escape all the misfortunes that were happening to me, but I soon realized that they won’t magically dissappear by doing so. I had to confront them. In order to survive and live life to the fullest we must embrace inevitable changes, adapt, have faith and be grateful.

If you open a box of adversity…maybe you’ll find- hope.

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Music

Sounds Like A Melody

I listen to music on average for at least 10 hours a day.

I listen to it playing on the radio while I am working.

I listen to it while I am walking through the city.

I listen to it while I am driving in the car.

Honestly, music is something I am almost addicted to.

Music is pure magic: it puts you asleep, it makes you happy, it helps you get through the tough times. It inspires you, it encourages you, it empowers you.

According to my taste in music which is mostly disco, funk, soul, chill out, old school rap and music from the 80’s my personality is creative, outgoing & headstrong which description I completely agree to.

Often I listen to the same song on repeat for dozen of times, for a couple of days or even months. Some songs never get boring to me. Also I almost always rememeber important moments in my life and song that was playing while something was happening.

When I was younger (especially in elementary school) MTV dictated my taste in music. After school I used to watch videos on TV and I sometimes waited for hours to hear my favorite song playing. Then, I would tape it so I could listen to it later for as long as I would like. In high school I was choosing friends based on their musical preference.

Nowdays I listen to songs that I choose by myself on Youtube. There are many channels with good and relaxing chill out music that I prefer listening to. I even started listening to sounds from the nature- when I am trying to fall I sleep I put sound of the rain on play 🙂 It sounds heavenly beautiful.

I especially love how bass can give more deeper sound to songs. I always adjust it on my Ipod according to the mood I’m in.

It was funny how people in high school used to dress up according to their musical taste- rappers in baggy clothes, darkers in black, those who liked pop music fashinable…

Everyone has his own taste in music, and if you ask me, as long as the music plays, it is fine with me.

Rock and all that jazz 🙂

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School & teachers

You Can Do The Math

In my country, these days are starting entrance exams for universities.

In those, among many subjects, students often have to pass math. Since I don’t have fond memories of my math classes and exams, I feel deeply sorry for them.

Math was always my weakest point throughout my educational endeavours. I was good in it in elementary school when we had really good teacher who explained it in, to us young students and kids, understandable manner. On contrary, high school years became my worst nightmare regarding addition, subtraction and all that stuff.

I actually could not find a way how to become good in math- did my performance stem from not practicing it enough or my little brain could not grasp its concepts.

Math was also a big problem for most of my classmates, so I soon came to conclusion that it is just difficult. Probably if it was explained thruogh some real life examples we could connect it with something familiar and it would become easier.

Unfortunately, none of our teachers could do it, they could not explain teaching material well. I also think that some students are better with words, some with art and some with biology and science. I am surely not in the math appreciation club 🙂

In many school systems grades depend on how teacher percieves your effort or in other words how he likes you. In regards to that I have one memorable experience with my high school teacher- I was writing a final exam for a higher grade and although I didn’t obtain enough score for it, my teacher said I deserve a better grade and gave a C to me 🙂

Sometimes, math is difficult, but being hard working and nice also pays off.

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