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Make A Memory Out Of Your life

How do you archive your life?

Every day is similar, yet every day is different from the day before.

Throughout your lifetime you participate in many events, you gain many experiences and you share many memorable moments with your loved ones.

In order to recall more easily all those memories you can archive what happened to you during many hours, days, months and years that passed.

When I was attending elementary school, I used to write a diary every day.

I was mostly writing about my classmates, homework, trips and grades.

It feels funny when I read now what I used to think long time ago- lots of matter seems trivial, but I know how important that used to be to me back in the days.

With a little pause in archiving experiences in high-school (apart from facebook- if it counts), let´s go fast forward to college. Those are the days when I started to write almost every quibble that came to my mind- I wrote them in notes on my Iphone.

At the same time, during college, I started to attend photography course. At first I took photos with my mobile phone, but when my lecturer made a disappointing statement how real photographers don´t use cell phone for art, I switched to my Canon camera. I started to shoot every situation, detail or place that seemed compelling.

Soon, new memories were created which I documented on my laptop.

My creative endeavours haven’t stopped with that- I started to write a blog and I became active on twitter- which are another ways of archiving your thoughts.

I think that you should always try to capture anything that you can think of- one day you might cherish that gathered memories even more.

Start writing a journal, take photos, make videos, archive your life- because for one day: memories shall stay…

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School & teachers, Uncategorized

We Learn For School And Not For Life

Non per scholae sed vitae discimus or in other words we don’t study for school, but for life.

How true is really this statement? I finished high school 9 years ago, have been since then in the institutions of higher education and I must admit that school doesn’t prepare you well for the realities of  everyday life. What we mostly do in school these days is memorizing endless material.

We don’t get encouraged to use our creativity and if we differ in any way from the norm, we often get criticized. I was a gifted student and because no one in high school recognized my talents, I struggled a lot with school. I was way ahead of my colleagues in the terms of knowledge, but I was somehow always getting bad grades- I just could not learn all that given data by heart and present it to teachers. We also don’t learn how to follow directions, but instead we learn how to pretend that we agree with our teachers.

Skills as how to find a job in this economy or how to start a job, what career do we want to pursue or how to manage taxes are not being taught at most institutions. I didn’t even know what a cover letter was when I was looking for a job during high school, let alone how to write it.

Apart from that, I suffered from low self esteem years after high school because I was always given bad grades. I felt enormous anxiety when I would have to speak or answer teachers’ questions in front of the class. I would also compare myself to other more successful students and beat myself down for not having achieved the same „success“.

In Croatia, every couple of years we hear that our educational system will be reformed, but from my opinion no one knows which ideas to implement.

Therefore, education still stands as one big experiment and all I can say to new generations is- you’ll survive, just like we did.

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Real life Cannot Be Found On Facebook

I have been using Facebook since I was about 17 years old.

My journey through social media started with Myspace, then Facebook followed (now days I like Twitter the most).

I first set up my Facebook account because it started to be very popular in my country and as I was in high school and you have to be popular in high school- therefore: Facebook!

Facebook was very much different ten years ago than it’s today, but some facts of that social network remained the same- everyone is posting about their happy and often fake lives. Everyone is partying, drinking and enjoying life. When I was younger, I often thought that my high school classmates were like that in real life, but as time passed by, I started to realize how far from the truth that was. Actually most of my colleagues were lost and depressed.

Not much of that fun postings were really true. Unfortunately I was really in a bad mood myself prior to that realization, but now I can observe their posts like a more experienced and mature adult. Actually when I realized that I don’t have to know anything about life of many of my so called „friends“ I was finally free.

While I was in high school, everyone was always gossiping so you had to stay in touch with who got drunk last night, who skipped classes, who made out with someone. Today my Facebook wall is bombarded with pictures of kids and weddings which I also don’t quite understand- shouldn’t photos of kids be kept private?

The best advice I could give myself is to quit Facebook, but unfortunately like all habits that have to be broken, it is not going to be easy. I already deactivated my account multiple times, but I always came back.

In reality today, I think you can only replace one social network with another, so perhaps I can quit Facebook and then start to write more on other platforms and connect with those people whose opinion I share with.

That’s a good start.

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Role models

Unsolicited Magical Advice

Throughout your life, you will hear a lot of useful and at times, not so useful advice.

Advices are other people´s opinions which they humbly think would apply to your life, because it served them in their´s.

People from all walks of life will hand them to you, although you never asked them in the first place.

It is up to you to decide what will you remember and what you won´t think about again.

Speaking from my experience, best piece of thought I ever heard came from my father who said that whatever was meant to happen would happen. On the other hand, the less helpful reflection came from my mother who said to me that everything will be fine with time.

These two sentences might seem similar,  but from my point of view, the pure effort to achieve that blissful happening makes them differ.

It is easier just to wait for something magically to happen, instead of taking steps to actually achieve it. But life doesn’t just happen, we create out realities everyday. We decide, we have choices, we have dreams, aspirations, habits…

The other day I saw an interesting picture posted on facebook: it showed how our success looks for the outside observer mostly like we took the painless path, like everything just clicked. In reality we made many difficult decisions, we survived many hardships, we sometimes laughed, but also cried a lot.

So the next time when you see someone who lives the life you always wanted, ask yourself what did it take him to get there. Perhaps you see only shiny moments, because you want to see the end result- happiness.

Every one of us wants to make the best our his life, but our paths on defining and accomplishing that task are not the same. We have to define our own goals, ask for guidance or believe in some Higher power to help us reveal our next step.

I realised that everything would be good in time, but only if we MAKE it happen.

Soon as you start creating your own reality, yes, everything will fall to its place.

Have fun in the meantime!

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Personality

It Is All About The Mindset

Optimism or pessimism? Glass half full of half empty?

Can you learn to be optimistic or is it a mindset with which you were born?

Have hardships made you look world in a pessimistic way?

 

There are two groups of people: the ones who see good in bad and the ones who see bad in good.

I think it is always better to lean to more optimistic side of life.

Life is a gift and although it may not seem always so, when for example confronted with difficulties, you will more easily get through them if keeping positive attitude. Real art is to appreciate every situation in which you may find yourself, whether your perception of it is good or bad.

Often bad situations turn out to be the greatest blessings, but sometimes we don’t see it in the given moment. Pessimissm brings bitternes, reduced enjoyment of life and unhappines, so try to learn to view people or situations around you in brighter light.

Everyone wants to be surrounded by positive people and not drown in negativity. Positive energy creates more postive energy. When you get to happiness you will more easily attract even more happiness. To get there you must learn to accept good and bad, you must try to work on yourself, ask for help when needed and cultivate mindful approach. I think that people who ask for help when life becomes hard for them are truly strong people, because they know they need assistance and they readily show they vulnerability.

My advice for anyone wanting to be more positive is to learn to enjoy in small, everyday parts of life. Cherish the moments you spend with your family, help others, don’t isolate yourself.

Everyone has his own share of problems, we can try to solve them or mourn over them, it is all about the mindset- our approach to life in general.

If you learn to put effort in becoming an optimist, instead of all the energy you are wasting on your negativity, you will soon see it pays off.

I wish you to be happy, because that’s who you are!

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I Decide To Read This Post

Decisions – we bring them every day, from about something that seems trivial to something that would impact our life in the long run.

From my personal experience, I had the most choices while I was in high school and before I started to work. Then, I was also overwhelmed with decision making. There were times when I almost felt paralysed with all the choices I had to make. When you are growing up, you just start to learn about the world and all the possibilities it offers. Sometimes, you listen to yourself when deciding which option to choose from, other times you rely on opinions of others.

The best way to learn how to make a decision is to find a good mentor, someone who would help you navigate through that stormy years of so many possibilities. With years your path becomes somewhat narrower, because you get more confidant in your decision making and problem solving.

It is equally hard when you have many options that all seem like a good fit for you as only having one option to choose from.

When we are kids, parents decide for us what to wear, which kindergarten to attend, what to eat…

Slowly, we begin stepping in the world of youth and then of grown ups, when we decide (or not) to take responsibilities for our actions and changes we want to make in out life.

I think most people are not scared of making decisions, but about outcomes they may cause. For every road we don’t take, it’s one door that we closed. If you are trying to decide about something that is of great importance of you, you should allow yourself to take time to think thouroughly and  choose between many opportunities.

Resist taking action out of fear, always follow your intuition and when possible problems occur, just know that you will find your way through it.

Decisions aren’t hard, you unknowingly even made a decision to read this post, so choose, decide, select!

 

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Happiness Makes Me Happy

Music, reading, psychology, my family, writing, learning, hearing birds singing in the morning, that blissful moment when waiting to fall asleep, enjoying conversations with my friends, my dog…

You may be wondering why am I listing all these activities and notions and the simple answer is: those are some of the things that make me happy 🙂

Just waking up in the morning, drinking coffee and going to work- makes me happy

Just coming home back from work and having lunch at home with my family- makes me happy

Just reading an interesting book in the afternoon- makes me happy

Just walking around the park with my friends- makes me happy

 

The thing is, when you have a positive mindset everything can make you happy.

Life sometimes isn’t easy, sometimes we are caught in the thinking that makes us pessimistic, but even then life is beautiful and your happiness just waits for you to embrace it.

I am happy because I have overcome serious illness, I am happy because I fullfilled my dreams of getting to college which I wanted, I am happy because I have true friends.

Big part of my enjoyment of life is also my gratitude for life and all its moments.

I don’t have regrets, I always tried to make the best choices in given time. Even mistakes that I thought that I made in the past turned out to bring me positivity afterwards- I growed as a person from them. I became stronger and I learned to appreciate life more.

Everyone of us should also try to help others, give them encouragement when they don’t see anything good in their lives. Happy people should serve as an example that happiness is not only desirable, but attainable. After hardships we grow, after rain the Sun rises. After tears comes smile.

Happy people glow in some kind of magical way, so surround yourself also with happy people to share your joy. When you are happy you see beauty in small events, in routine, in difficulties, in a rainy day.

There are many definitions of what life is, but I think that life is- happiness 🙂

 

 

 

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